tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1178163893409712886.post1121743338524447270..comments2023-10-14T01:26:09.828-07:00Comments on Author, Jenn Cooksey's Blog: Sex in YA — Part 2Jenn Cookseyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08605568460233899403noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1178163893409712886.post-15339750307572525712019-05-13T05:26:42.991-07:002019-05-13T05:26:42.991-07:00I read your blog frequently and I just thought I’d...I read your blog frequently and I just thought I’d say keep up the amazing work! <a href="https://sextoy.com.au/" rel="nofollow">Fleshlight Australia</a><br />Gerard Martinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07674723158304931575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1178163893409712886.post-779609549541840592014-08-22T05:24:06.692-07:002014-08-22T05:24:06.692-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13277549084186617567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1178163893409712886.post-32303847008821151582014-08-18T06:12:21.329-07:002014-08-18T06:12:21.329-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11857374570979734441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1178163893409712886.post-15692635996146448332013-08-09T15:48:45.121-07:002013-08-09T15:48:45.121-07:00Indeed I do. :-pIndeed I do. :-pJenn Cookseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08605568460233899403noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1178163893409712886.post-76782080313063114542013-08-09T15:46:25.770-07:002013-08-09T15:46:25.770-07:00Ah, yes...the relationships between the characters...Ah, yes...the relationships between the characters and their parents. That, my dear, is a whole other blog topic that I plan on getting into at some point soon. LOL And thank you for the compliment. While I agree with you in part, I also believe I could've been more far more descriptive and steamy, and gotten away with it just fine, although there was actually a reason for why I did it the way I ultimately did in SOoW, and that's what part 3 of this blog series is about. ;-)Jenn Cookseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08605568460233899403noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1178163893409712886.post-46078140018441663472013-08-09T15:39:02.268-07:002013-08-09T15:39:02.268-07:00I completely agree, Ali, it *is* the responsibilit...I completely agree, Ali, it *is* the responsibility of parents to know what their children are reading, but not all parents take that particular part of parenting seriously, possibly being of the mind that if it's a YA book, it can't have anything too untoward in it, and some might just be thankful that their kid is even reading. However, when it comes to the friends of my children specifically, I feel the need to keep in mind that there are times when I'm the adult responsible for the kid's welfare (i.e, when they're hanging out here or sleeping over etc...) and I have to remember that other parents might not be cool with what I'm okay with what my kids are exposed to, so with that in mind and knowing what's in them, if I were to see one of those kids reading my books I would have to ask, "Um, do your parents know what you're reading? I mean like, do they really *know* what you're reading?" Because as an example if it were me and another parent let my kids watch Spongebob and never thought to ask if I'm okay with that, I'd be fuckin' pissed. LOLJenn Cookseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08605568460233899403noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1178163893409712886.post-48339569179437490972013-08-08T08:09:42.166-07:002013-08-08T08:09:42.166-07:00You know what my answer would be. ;) You know what my answer would be. ;) Wordsmith Publicityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00897614941710495406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1178163893409712886.post-26534025332180688512013-08-07T13:22:42.186-07:002013-08-07T13:22:42.186-07:00I agree with Ali too! Anjie said it, if the growth...I agree with Ali too! Anjie said it, if the growth of 2 characters brings them to the point of having sex, then it's going to happen if that's where the characters are. That is a natural relationship's progression. It's going to come up in a book and it will in reality. I don't have teens yet, but I wish I had the kind of relationship with my own parents when I was considering having sex that is described in GYP and I hope that I am able to build that with my own daughters and son (though I have a few more years for that! WHEW!). It is the detailing that will get to readers. There is PG13 and then there is R. I think you did very well with SOoW and when my oldest is of age to read and understand the age frame of GYP I would absolutely let her read these books.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04768680642899693983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1178163893409712886.post-74964138448187032472013-08-07T11:09:54.279-07:002013-08-07T11:09:54.279-07:00We are in the same boat (which is a word I still g...We are in the same boat (which is a word I still giggle at,thanks to you). My daughter doesn't even date. Sounds like she is like your daughter in the fact that she knows what she wants in life and realizes that she doesn't want the distraction that can come along with boys. <br /><br />I see your point on not wanting to be burned at the stake by parents but ultimately it is their responsibility to know what their child is reading. If she gets her hands on something they think she should not be reading...well, they should have been paying more attention. Just my two cents, I'm know there are a ton of peeps who would not agree. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08076745524122886751noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1178163893409712886.post-40277185679597398972013-08-07T10:15:23.969-07:002013-08-07T10:15:23.969-07:00Hey Anjie! Thanks for stopping by!
Yeah...the det...Hey Anjie! Thanks for stopping by!<br /><br />Yeah...the detailing of sex in a YA is tricky in my mind and what part 3 of this series will cover. (Insert fade to black here: _____.) :-pJenn Cookseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08605568460233899403noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1178163893409712886.post-31420204465476927022013-08-07T10:09:51.735-07:002013-08-07T10:09:51.735-07:00And I love that you love it! LOL
I didn't kno...And I love that you love it! LOL<br /><br />I didn't know we were in the same teenage-parenting boat though, and I, too, have a 16 year old girl who's managed to remain pure despite having a "Tristan-type" boyfriend for a few months. (Yeah, that was fun for me.) She's definitely not a prude, but she knows herself, knows the kind of relationship she requires for sex to be on the menu, and knows (for the most part) what she wants out of life right now, and a serious relationship in high school is not one of those things, which basically takes sex off the menu altogether. <br /><br />And I do agree with you about the responsibility not falling on an author, but at the same time, the responsibility is still somewhat felt. After all, my kids cheerlead for me and are allowed to read what I write, and their friends read it too, even a then 11 year old friend of my middle minion who upon its release read Shark Bait—and loved it. She of course began exclaiming she wants to be Camie when she "grows up," but um...mild as that book is though, I have to say I'm a little concerned about her parents banging down my door with pitchforks and torches in hand after their daughter reads SOoW, you know what I mean? LOL <br /><br />But as you said, everything that has gone down in the series has been a natural progression and it should be there, so while I might get lynched by the neighborhood watch or the PTA of my daughters' middle school, I'm writing the way the story and characters naturally evolve, and I'll do it without censoring.Jenn Cookseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08605568460233899403noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1178163893409712886.post-60954620201204891272013-08-07T09:25:36.604-07:002013-08-07T09:25:36.604-07:00I agree with Ali. I think if sex seems to be where...I agree with Ali. I think if sex seems to be where characters are headed, and the growth of their characters, and staying true to those characters would have them tumbling into bed, then I think it should be in the story. I don't agree with sex for the sake of sex, nor do I think that in a mature YA series that it should be described in graphic detail. That would be kind of oogy, given the age of the characters. That said, I am not a prude, and I do enjoy some details, but for me it's better in a NA book set in college. I guess because my mind would be screaming at me "15 will get you 20!!" while reading details in a YA book. Yeah, makes no real sense. ;) There is something to be said for a good fade to black.<br /><br />Anjiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01716782015737155796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1178163893409712886.post-35101344353101969452013-08-07T09:05:06.337-07:002013-08-07T09:05:06.337-07:00I so love this topic! I think if sex fits in with ...I so love this topic! I think if sex fits in with the characters and the story, in a natural way...throw it in. Obviously it isn't always needed as part of the story. With GYP, it fit. I hate the idea of leaving sex out just because it is a YA novel. Teens have sex. It is a part of life. I know my experience growing up was the more sheltered my prudish mother tried to keep me, the more I rebelled. So I adopted my parenting ways based off of that. I'm very open with my kidlet and in return have raised the most prudish 16 year old girl on the planet. Go figure. She reads about sex but doesn't in any way think she needs to go have it. This won't be the case for every kid out there, by any means. But I don't think it is a responsibility that falls on an author. Again, if it is a natural progression for your characters...it should be there.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08076745524122886751noreply@blogger.com